Healing isn't a math problem. Even though sometimes, with enough rationalizing, it can feel like there just has to be one right answer out there, if someone would just plug in the right numbers. This post is about the team of healers who help me manage my chronic...
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Ah, revision. We know it is essential for improving our creations. We know it works. Yet... we struggle to actually do it. I'm not here to shame you, because Goddess knows that is the opposite of my jam (PS: did you know that "jam" is a term gay people used to use...
When you’re on a path, you make choices that move you in particular directions. You likely know the Robert Frost lines, “Two roads diverged in a wood and I – I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.” You also have the opportunity to make large and small decisions that affect how your path will develop.
Doing the good job I’m talking about requires identifying explicitly what good work means in a particular context, and doing only that and no more. Limiting your output to a good job will help you save time, energy, and focus, and will help you redistribute those resources to other parts of your life.
If you do it with intention, batchotasking will help you to shift your habits, enhance your focus, and set boundaries around your productivity, which will earn you more confidence and allow you to reserve energy for down time activities (which you can also batchotask).
I’ve been planning to talk about these three things since I started The Tending Year, but I wanted to do so with a purpose that extended beyond a performative “Hey MTV, welcome to my crib, this is a list of my routines.” In hindsight, I also see that I needed the entirety of last year to practice building habits and learn how much I love routines, including why they can help and hinder me. I like thinking of them as magical, because they enable me to change my life via intentionally adjusting my perspective and my actions.
Momentum really only has two steps: start and keep going. It sounds ridiculously simple when put this way, yet remains incredibly complicated because it assumes starting and keeping going are habits we just have by some grace of luck or skill. In what follows, I’ll break down the start and the keep going of momentum into practical, achievable steps.
Although we often think of things like publications, presentations, and dissertations as outcome-based, their behind the scenes labor can take physical, emotional, mental, and psychological tolls if we do not acknowledge them as labor.
Welcome to the first installment of the Less is Best Series! I love mantras. They help me manifest structure from whence there was none by blending principles with guidance and still leaving breathing room for interpretation. In addition to my 2019 theme word...
I'll celebrate six years of sobriety this coming March. I often say that the switch in my brain that should tell me when I'm sated (the one that helps other people stop after two drinks) is busted. Addiction isn't fun. Or it seems fun, until it's not. Once the...
While this blog post will teach you how to use three different types of lists to maximize your productivity, it will also show you something more important: how to find focus and feel calm while making deliberate and meaningful progress on the most mountainous of projects.
Looking for 2018 posts?
I’ll be transferring my 2018 blog posts from tumblr to WordPress sometime this year, but for now you can access the original posts by clicking the links below. It’ll take you to thetendingyear.tumblr.com, but the posts are the exact same ones you know and love!
1.52: Lessons from 2018
1.51: Reflection: Whys and Hows
1.50: 2018 Goals Check In
Monthly Reflection 11: November
1.49: How to Handle Aversive Tasks
1.48: Social Media with Intention and Awareness
1.47: What is Work and Why it Matters
1.46: What I Learned from Monitoring
Monthly Reflection 10: October
1.45: Have Purpose on Purpose
1.44: Choosing Yes, Choosing No
1.43: To Hold in the Hand: A Guide to Maintaining
1.42: How to Handle Overwhelm
1.41: Some is Better than None
Monthly Reflection 9: September
1.40: One-Inch Picture Frame
1.39: Ways to Handle a Bad Mood
1.38: Keeping a Dissertation Journal
1.37: Vision Boards
Monthly Reflection 8: August
1.36: Must-Do Method
1.35: Mind & Concept Maps
1.34: How to Feel Good Enough
1.33: My Archival Research Fellowship
1.32: Priority Setting
Monthly Reflection 7: July
1.31: Emotional Agency
1.30: Managing Energy Expenditure
1.29: Monotasking vs. Task Switching
1.28: How to Receive and Release with Intention
1.27: How to Live with Intention Using Values + Presence
Monthly Reflection 6: June
1.26: Top Five Tending Tips
1.25: Embracing the Gray Area
1.24: Regarding Self Care
1.23: Workaholic Tendancies
Monthly Reflection 5: May
1.22: Negative Self Talk
1.21: Perfectionism & Pain
1.20: How to Schedule
1.19: How to Plan
Monthly Reflection 4: April
1.16: Enjoy the Process
1.15: Habits 101
Monthly Reflection 3: March
1.11: Dive Deep
1.10: Conscious Input and Output
Monthly Reflection 2: February
1.7: Self-Compassion: What It Is & How Do I Do It?
1.6: Changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves
Monthly Reflection 1: January
1.5: Mindful Production
1.4: Mindful Consumption
How I Got Clarity and Finally Turned it Over
1.3: Playing It By Ear
1.2: Three Keys to Abundance
1.1: Welcome to The Tending Year!